You’ve been asked to be a groomsman in your good friend’s wedding — you’re thrilled for your dude, but if you’re honest with yourself, you’re already feeling stressed about your role! How much is this gonna cost? Do I have to make a toast? Will I look good in the photos?

You’ve come to the right place! This post is packed with my very best groomsman tips that will not only make you a best groomsman, but they’ll keep you sane & having fun in the process!

Treat yo self

Get a fresh haircut, gentlemen! Trust me, you wanna look your best for these photos!

Remember your why

I know that being a groomsman can begin to feel time-consuming and really tighten your budget and that can feel frustrating. Whenever you begin to have negative feelings about the wedding or resenting the groom, speak this affirmation (I’m serious – it might feel cheesy, but it’ll help): “My dude needs me & this will show him how much I care about him”.

Keep the Room Clean

Often times I have to take time away from photographing the groom to move water bottles, tissues, luggage, and things of that nature out of the photo’s frame during getting ready photos. Designate a side room for everyone’s personal belongings and keep food and beverages off of tables in the main space.

Set a Vibe

You know the groom better than I do, so bring along a speaker & play the jams you think will get him into the best mood. Some grooms want a chill vibe while getting ready – maybe sports on the TV even & others want all Chance the Rapper and tequila shots, but there’s nothing worse than being photographed in an awkwardly quiet room!

Support our Dude

Advocate for the groom and his feelings on the wedding day, especially if a family member is stressing him out over an unimportant detail. If he’s feeling nervous, be a calming presence and remind him how special his bride is!

Help a Brotha Out

Throughout the day, keep an eye on the groom’s jacket & boutonniere, making sure there’s no dust spots and that the flowers haven’t flipped upside down.

Be Confident

You may be camera shy, but know that the more you relax in front of the camera, the better your photos will turn out. Carry yourself like you’re at your 5th GQ photo shoot & don’t forget to roll those shoulders back to have good posture. Make sure the top button on your jacket is buttoned for photos unless you’re sitting or have your arms around someone. When in doubt, hands in your pockets looks better than criss-crossing your hands in front of you. Also be sure to smile as you walk into the ceremony! Let yourself feel the emotions of the day too – ugly cry, belly laugh, whatever you need to do – don’t hold back!

Toast Tips

Aim for a three-minute speech—that sounds short until you’re standing in front of 100 people. First, establish how you know the groom. Then add something funny (but not embarrassing) and something sentimental.

Dude, you’re ready! Have fun!